Scriptures teaches that a man looks for the woman, specifically he finds a wife. The man came first and woman came to be a companion to man. A woman does not find a husband.
Single women today are seeking good jobs and a rich lifestyle. They have children outside of wedlock and work hard to make sure their children are well provided for. Simultaneously, single women look for a husband- as if he is an item to check off on a grocery list. They expect a man to appreciate all she has done for herself and position himself in the spot she left for him.
I am always shocked to meet women who have been in long term relationships of 20 plus years. Many single women settle for being the long term girlfriend or live-in lover of a heterosexual male without the God ordained commitment called marriage, actually it is a covenant. The man satisfies her flesh and is available for those ‘plus one’ events but he will never fill the void in her life. One woman I know finally separated herself from a long term relationship of 30 years, moving to another state.
In these long term relationships the men continue to live as single, meaning they have relationships outside of the relationship. The ‘woman’ lives as if they are married, even when they live in separate dwellings. The men are satisfied as things are, there really is no need for any commitment: his flesh is satisfied; he gets good food either with her, with someone else or even by himself when he does not want to be bothered; and she, whichever she he wants, will be there in case of emergency. I refer to these men as sons.
There are men who are looking for a woman to marry. Many of these men are not really husband material, they were raised by single mothers and or fathers who were there but not influential. These are the sons I spoke of earlier they do not know what it means to be the head of the household. Note I said they are looking for a woman to marry. Biblically speaking a man who wants to be a husband needs a wife, not all women are ready to be wives.
PROVERBS 18:22He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord.
Biblically speaking: A man is to prepare himself to receive a woman in his life: Adam had a purpose before Eve came into his life. A woman must prepare herself to live with a man whom she can follow.
Esther spent a year preparing herself to go before the King, he was to examine her and see if she was suitable to be his Queen.
Women who have a purpose from YHWH will be able to fulfill it and submit to their husbands- if they are joined together by God.
Deborah was married to Lapidoth, though submitted to her husband she was able to fulfill her purpose as a Judge and Prophetess. Joseph was the right man for Mary, he was not intimate with her until after she gave birth to the Messiah.
As June approaches many young women are planning a luxurious wedding. Some of these women know that he is not ready to be a husband, the fact that she is willing to marry him anyway is a clue that she is not ready to be a wife.
If you are planning your wedding it is important that you don’t focus on what happens before you walk down the aisle. A marriage begins after you say I do.
written by Marsha L F Randolph
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