I DON'T DO DRAMA!

NETTIE-OLOGY: Pure and simple, I say what I say and mean what I say.

The reason I don’t have many female friends, where I live now, is because I don’t gossip, disrespect my husband, or put down people who are different. I am not like all those other women people seem to talk about- I don’t do drama.

People misinterpret my demeanor. Many individuals are offended by my frankness, others misinterpret my silence. It seems people expect women to go overboard when things happen..

For the record: Calling me a “strong Black woman” is a trigger. I am not that strong although I am a Black woman, I have a personal relationship with YHWH through Yeshua; He is my strength. In my weakness He covers me with strength. 

Why is this important? Because there are a lot of women out there who do not do drama; some say they don’t do drama very dramatically.  There are a lot of single women out there who don’t do drama but are misunderstood by men who say they are not looking for drama.

This is where it gets confusing. 

Men often say they don’t do drama yet are attracted to women who are very dramatic. There are men who like the crazy! (Is it a sexual thing????) Maybe they mistake emotionalism for passion. These are the men who end up with ‘baby momma drama’! 

Men have a tendency to ignore women who do not do drama, and then they are surprised. There is an old song by the Persuaders: Thin Line Between Love and Hate- that woman did not “do drama”! If you never heard the song Google it! The bottom line is: the man kept doing wrong and then one day she had enough, her reaction caught him off guard (to say the least). Men take a calm woman for granted, they have to be on guard all the time for the drama queens. (SMH!)

Lately, I have been reading a lot of social media post from men sharing their thoughts regarding women. When you are sheltered in for months you get tired of the drama. (LOL!) I am totally fascinated as I read the young mens observations and questions as they pertain to women.  Clearly these men have focused in on women who entice their flesh and not their minds. Even young men get tired- apparently!

There are women who present themselves as perfect and then there are women who present themselves as themselves, flawed. I am reminded of another song by the Undisputed Truth: Smiling Faces Sometimes; this song was also sung by the Temptations and Rare Earth.   

“Smiling faces sometimes

Pretend to be your friend

Smiling faces show no traces

Of the evil that lurks within (can you dig it?)

Smiling faces, smiling faces, sometimes

They don't tell the truth

Smiling faces, smiling faces tell lies and I got proof

Oh, oh, yeah

Let me tell you

The truth is in the eyes 'cause the eyes don't lie, amen”

The eyes don’t lie! I remember my doctor looking in my eyes and telling me I was not drinking enough water; I wasn’t. My friends look in my eyes to know if I am irritated or not. My eyes don’t lie.

People who do drama will smile in your face one day and destroy your life the next day. It is your own fault! That person was always like that; you chose not to look deep before you leaped. 

What I am saying is not just in regard to personal relationships. It is important before you get into a business endeavor with someone that you also get past the emotionalism and analyze the facts. 

I submit to you: There have been many opportunities that you passed up because you thought she was to plain, he was boring.  There were financial opportunities that you disregarded because you did not see a quick return on your investment, instead you chose the mulit-level marketing opportunity and lost hundreds of dollars.  I have been there, done that and don’t do it any more.

ritten by Marsha L F Randolph

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